Truth #6

(scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?

First I have to ask, what was the fight about?  Did she cheat with my husband?  Or did she tell me she was sick and couldn't go to the movies with me when she really just had other plans and didn't want to hurt my feelings?  Or gossip behind my back with someone and it got back to me somehow? 

Case A-cheating with my husband.  I likely would do nothing, not respond.  Some things are unforgiveable.  There are lines you do not cross as friends. 

Cases B&C-white lie/gossip.  No.Brainer.  At the hospital as quickly as my legs could get me there.  While mildly hurtful, not necessarily a reason to end a close friendship.  These issues can be tabled until the crisis is over.  Everyone does this, it's normal, a coping mechanism or a way of venting some frustration.  Not a betrayal of the Rules of Friendship.

   

They don't get it

It makes me crazy when people don't understand why money is a struggle for some people.  I am not poor, I have a good job, so does my husband, but at the end of the month there is not a lot of wiggle room.  We budget food, living expenses (ie. bills), fuel costs, car payment, child care.  As an example (but there have been other scenarios as well):  I have decided to sell my car to free up some money and the most common question I get is "Why?  You'll be able to drive eventually."  Yes, but that is not guaranteed, and I really don't want to pay for a car that's just sitting in my driveway doing nothing useful.  That money is better spent, for the moment, on living expenses or being put towards some FUN things to do as a family.  We could have a REAL summer holiday, or plan some activities that we otherwise wouldn't be able to do since really, money is often tight.  Recently at work, I won a prize draw for completing a survey (mgmt trying to get 100% participation, but I'm all for it!), people couldn't grasp why I was celebrating in my office.  I can't even remember the last movie I saw in the theatre.  If we wanted to go see a new movie at the theatre, it would cost more than our subscription to Netflix for....Ahhh, forget it.  I just hear myself bitching and I'm sick of myself already.

More smiles

Me:  Did we have a nice walk sweetie?

J:  Yes, I love walking with you Mommy.

Me:  I love walking with you too.

J:  And we were faster than a herd of turtles!

Flat

I was chatting with my friend a couple of weeks ago, and I told her about how I was feeling flat, emotionally.  That is still the case.  I tend to have high highs, low lows, and little in between.  I have been attributing it to the meds, but I'm not so sure that's actually the case.  I hope I am not hurting my family.  I'm happiest with my son, because I know that's what he needs from me, and crankiest with my husband, because I know that he is equipped to handle it (far better than my 3.5 year old anyway).  Is this what depression looks like?  I have a hard time with that word.  I never believed it would happen to me.  I thought I was strong, or something like that.  Not that depression makes you weak, that's not really what I'm trying to say.  I just thought that I would always be able to cope with what life handed me.  I don't know.  I just don't.