(scenario) Your best friend is in a car accident and you two got into a fight an hour before. What do you do?
First I have to ask, what was the fight about? Did she cheat with my husband? Or did she tell me she was sick and couldn't go to the movies with me when she really just had other plans and didn't want to hurt my feelings? Or gossip behind my back with someone and it got back to me somehow?
Case A-cheating with my husband. I likely would do nothing, not respond. Some things are unforgiveable. There are lines you do not cross as friends.
Cases B&C-white lie/gossip. No.Brainer. At the hospital as quickly as my legs could get me there. While mildly hurtful, not necessarily a reason to end a close friendship. These issues can be tabled until the crisis is over. Everyone does this, it's normal, a coping mechanism or a way of venting some frustration. Not a betrayal of the Rules of Friendship.
Depending on the closeness of the friendship, I would possibly even table A through the crisis. The closer the friendship, the more likely I would do this. Only because it's unlikely that the whole story came out in that hour before. I'd need closure.
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